Yes, finally, I am writing about this topic. It's too complicated to compare these two genders because they are so much opposite. So I am not comparing here. What I am going to do is leave away some free advice, helpful to all to keep up or make a relationship in a happy way.
FYI - I am no expert in anything. I am just putting my guesses and this is work of fiction. Just read and feel free to agree or disagree. Lets starts with some fun before I drop some gold knowledge.
I found two diaries from a day, a married couple's. Here is a day from it.
Woman's diary - 27 May 2012
Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went shopping in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so I thought it might be that. The cafe was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go somewhere nice to eat.
All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed, and didn't seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying. I just knew that something was wrong. He dropped me back home and I wondered if he as going to come in; he hesitated, but followed.
I asked him again if there was something the matter but he just half shook is head and turned the television on. After about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed. I told him that I loved him deeply. He just gave a sigh, and a sad sort of smile.
He didn't follow me up, but later he did. He still seemed distant and a bit cold, and I started to think that he was going to leave me, and that he had found someone else.
I cried myself to sleep.
Man's diary - 27 May 2012
My team lost IPL final today. Gutted. Better luck next time Chennai. Supported because I made a bet.
Note to self: support other team or stop betting.
Plus, wife did more shopping today. Third day in a row. What is happening here.
Some fun off the Internet:
BOY : I can't leave you...
GIRL : Do you love me so much??
BOY : It's not that. You're standing on my foot.
BOY : May I hold your hand??
GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.
GIRL : Did you miss me while I was away??
BOY : Were you away??
GIRL : Who was that girl I saw you kissing last night?
BOY : What time was it??
GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me!
BOY : You love me ...
GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring??
BOY : Sure, what's your phone number??
GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest ...
BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple.
GIRL : Do you remember when you proposed to me? I was so
overwhelmed, I couldn't speak for an hour ...
BOY : Yes Darling, that was the happiest hour of my life ...
GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever ...
BOY : Don't you ever want to improve??
BOY : I love you and I could die for you!
GIRL : How soon??
GIRL1: Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning kiss??
GIRL2: I did once. He'd forgotten to take the cigarette out of his mouth
BOY : I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours!
GIRL : I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours!!!
BOY : Hi! Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
GIRL : Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice!!!
BOY : May I have the pleasure of this dance?
GIRL : No, I'd like to have some pleasure too!!!
BOY : Will you come out with me this Saturday?
GIRL : Sorry! I'm having a headache this weekend!!!
BOY : Go on, don't be shy. Ask me out!
GIRL : Okay, get out!!!
BOY : Shall we go and see a film?
GIRL : I've already seen it!!!
BOY : Do you think it was fate which brought us together?
GIRL : Nah, it was plain bad luck
Okay now, did you get the point? Man and Woman are different - a lot different. I think marriage was supposed to be a magic or supernatural activity to keep them together.
Jokes apart, here is a real thing. You may be guessing, if you don't know, that fights are like regular in relationships. Somewhere it's monthly, yearly, quarterly, and very sad - may be daily. But no matter how many people say that fight is proof that you care - I would say - fight always sucks. To stay away from fights as much as possible, know each other in behavior especially reactions under stress.
Mostly, when fight happens, stress imbibes. Many a times, stress comes first and fight comes later. Typically, under stress, men tend to withdraw and isolate while women seek support to their emotions. So probably you can guess when the other person is in stress by the behavior and help console. Also remember to respect the way other person want to handle stress and not push your way in. Most important, time will make it right mostly. Trust this, many things should hopefully smooth out.
More to come, hopefully.
What new to write was one of the few questions I came across today (Isn't this surprising!!). Diwali is just around the corner so I was thinking to write a bit about it. So the question is, do I write about Diwali festival the way I use to write essay in school? FYI - I used to score not-so-bad, may be about 7.5 or 8 out of 10. Usually starting with the days of Diwali, their importance and also some personal experiences of Diwali celebrations.
Ya... let's skip this method of writing because I have something really interesting thing going in my mind. I am recalling my previous Diwali celebrations and the progress of my thoughts about Diwali. Hope this interests the readers. Please forgive me if the technicalities of Diwali are either missing or incomplete due to my ignorance.
Day - Naraka Chaturdashi: Celebrated for Narakasura's killing by Krishna.
I used to think it is the day when we have to take bath before sunrise called Abhyanga Snaan. Fire crackers, lights and prayers. I used to think that the this day of Diwali is to find out how many things can you do when actually in sleep. Many times I discovered that bathing is one of the things that I can do even when in sleep.
Day - Lakshmi Puja: Worshipping Devi Lakshmi. Most important day of Diwali. For many years, it had been a day of taking out and adoring old and very old coins (which are only used during Puja). Then find something which was forgotten long back like silver whistle (which I always fell in love at sight with) from don't-at-all-know when. Also, during the times I was very much interested in fire crackers, this was the most awaited evening. Fire crackers used to go up as soon as Puja starts.
Now-a-days however, I refrain from any fire crackers. In fact, it's a strict no from my side to blow any noisy stuff. It does cause hysteric problems to many living beings.
Day - Bhaubeej (Bhaiduj/Yama Dwitiya): Celebrates the story of Yama visiting his sister Yami (river Yamuna) and giving her gift.
I always thought this day as a mini-Rakshabandhan except for Rakhi. My favorite day.
Day - Dhanatrayodashi: Celebrates the birth of Dhanvantari during "Samudra manthan".
For me, this is day of shopping especially of Gold. Not really interested in this totally because of lack of interest in any jewels but it's very important day and I remember many new things being bought on this day of Diwali.
Day - Padwa: Month of Kartik starts. Special day for Husband and wife.
Don't remember me doing anything with my wife on this day. Oh wait, I am not yet married.
I love festivals. I love Diwali. The smell of fire crackers. The fragrance of "Utna". The eatables made as "Faral". Even though the job and professional life has restricted my time spend on Diwali at home, I still enjoy every bit of it as much as I can.
Recently, last few Diwali times have been full of many experiences. For once or twice, I missed being at home on Diwali due to job. Another time I drove about 500 km to home. Family pulling me in marriage related discussions on Diwali is now usual from last year or so but luckily; as it proved; it has been good to be not married yet.
Another time was when I drove 600 km something from home to work location. The eating till you can't even stand the smell stuff when you visit friends' homes on Diwali.
Oh.. so many things. Just so so many of them. Could start a separate blog on it. Have a safe and happy Diwali.
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More to come, hopefully.
It's official. Looking young is very important. You may look bizarre untidy, sleepy or anything but first you must look young. I think looking young starts with feeling young. I personally don't know the difference between feeling old and feeling young. I have always felt the same way young and awesome (generally I mean, leave away the patches).
Just like my Tips for a healthy Life and Instruction Manual for Life, this write will also be considered as some ideas to make living more enjoyable. I think if anyone can just try and keep up with below tips, they can start to feel the difference right away.
1. Age, Height and Weight are only numbers - you can throw all these out. Let the doctors and trainers worry about it. That's for what you pay them.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches and sad ones pull you down. You may initially feel that you should keep all together, but believe me, keeping cheerfuls closer is always the right idea. Staying happy is your Birth Right.
3. Remember - idle mind is devil's laboratory. So keep your mind busy. You can keep exploring new things on the subjects of your interests or even on general topics like computers, internet, crafts, gardening, sketching, painting, whatever.
4. Enjoying small little simple things is very very very important. Simply because this is one of your Birth Duty that comes along with your Birth Right of staying happy always. Small things keep on happening and big things happen once in a while. Enjoying small things makes you enjoy life all the time. When big things happen, you will enjoy more.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laughing is the one feeling that you will remember for a long long time. How many times you recalled an incident saying "that day we laughed like anything." or "literally ROFL - stomach hurts". Laugh till you gasp for breath.
6. Yes I know life is not always one ways. The tears happen. Heart breaks. We are hurt by small and big things many times. But that's no reason to give up enjoying. Endure, grieve and move on. The only person who is with us entire lifetime is us. So, be Alive.
7. What surrounds you, influences you. So surround yourself with what you love. Friends, family, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
8. Trips. Who likes these? Almost all. Take any trip anywhere. But DON'T take guilt trips ever. That's the worst place to be. Go to shop or a mall or a city or country but NOT where guilt is.
9. As I have said once before in old post - Health is wealth. Cherish it. Preserving good health and improving unstable health is the trick. This is one of the most difficult things. Well, if you can't do much work to improve it. At least don't do what will degrade it. If you need help, get it.
10. Live every moment. Make an effort to Live it all the time rather than just making it go past.
More to come, hopefully.
