Women and Men

Yes, finally, I am writing about this topic. It's too complicated to compare these two genders because they are so much opposite. So I am not comparing here. What I am going to do is leave away some free advice, helpful to all to keep up or make a relationship in a happy way.

FYI - I am no expert in anything. I am just putting my guesses and this is work of fiction. Just read and feel free to agree or disagree. Lets starts with some fun before I drop some gold knowledge.

I found two diaries from a day, a married couple's. Here is a day from it.

Woman's diary - 27 May 2012

Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went shopping in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so I thought it might be that. The cafe was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go somewhere nice to eat.

All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed, and didn't  seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying. I just knew that something was wrong. He dropped me back home and I wondered if he  as going to come in; he hesitated, but followed.

I asked him again if there was something the matter but he just half shook is head and turned the television on. After about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed. I told him that I loved him deeply. He just gave a sigh, and a sad sort of smile.

He didn't follow me up, but later he did. He still seemed distant and a bit cold, and I started to think that he was going to leave me, and that he had found someone else.

I cried myself to sleep.


Man's diary - 27 May 2012

My team lost IPL final today. Gutted. Better luck next time Chennai. Supported because I made a bet.
Note to self: support other team or stop betting.

Plus, wife did more shopping today. Third day in a row. What is happening here.


Some fun off the Internet:

BOY : I can't leave you... 
GIRL : Do you love me so much?? 
BOY : It's not that. You're standing on my foot. 


BOY : May I hold your hand??
GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.


GIRL : Did you miss me while I was away?? 
BOY : Were you away?? 


GIRL : Who was that girl I saw you kissing last night? 
BOY : What time was it?? 


GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me! 
BOY : You love me ... 


GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring?? 
BOY : Sure, what's your phone number?? 


GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest ... 
BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple. 


GIRL : Do you remember when you proposed to me? I was so 
overwhelmed, I couldn't speak for an hour ... 
BOY : Yes Darling, that was the happiest hour of my life ... 


GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever ... 
BOY : Don't you ever want to improve?? 


BOY : I love you and I could die for you! 
GIRL : How soon?? 


GIRL1: Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning kiss?? 
GIRL2: I did once. He'd forgotten to take the cigarette out of his mouth


BOY : I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours! 
GIRL : I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours!!! 


BOY : Hi! Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice? 
GIRL : Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice!!! 


BOY : May I have the pleasure of this dance? 
GIRL : No, I'd like to have some pleasure too!!! 


BOY : Will you come out with me this Saturday? 
GIRL : Sorry! I'm having a headache this weekend!!! 


BOY : Go on, don't be shy. Ask me out! 
GIRL : Okay, get out!!! 


BOY : Shall we go and see a film? 
GIRL : I've already seen it!!! 


BOY : Do you think it was fate which brought us together? 
GIRL : Nah, it was plain bad luck


Okay now, did you get the point? Man and Woman are different - a lot different. I think marriage was supposed to be a magic or supernatural activity to keep them together. 

Jokes apart, here is a real thing. You may be guessing, if you don't know, that fights are like regular in relationships. Somewhere it's monthly, yearly, quarterly, and very sad - may be daily. But no matter how many people say that fight is proof that you care - I would say - fight always sucks. To stay away from fights as much as possible, know each other in behavior especially reactions under stress. 

Mostly, when fight happens, stress imbibes. Many a times, stress comes first and fight comes later. Typically, under stress, men tend to withdraw and isolate while women seek support to their emotions. So probably you can guess when the other person is in stress by the behavior and help console. Also remember to respect the way other person want to handle stress and not push your way in. Most important, time will make it right mostly. Trust this, many things should hopefully smooth out.

More to come, hopefully.